They say millennial dads are 3 times more involved than previous generations but I still hear lots of comments about how people are surprised of the very basic things my husband does. So here's a giant list of everything my husband does so we can raise the standard.

 

When I first had Ryden I don't think I changed a diaper until he was 4 days old. And then once he went back to work a week later he would come home, flip the laundry, make dinner, take Ryden until almost midnight and then wake up and go to work and do it all over again. 

 

He plans meals, cooks on his days off and if he comes home and I haven't gotten to dinner yet he starts cooking. If he comes home and the house is a disaster he doesn't say anything, he just cleans. If I call him crying because it's been a really hard day, he says the only thing I have to do is take care of the kids and then he brings me home cake and/or ice cream and/or flowers. On his days off he does most of the laundry, cleans the bathrooms and vacuums and mops. He does most home updates and fixes everything that needs fixing. 

 

When Ryden was sick and couldn't go to daycare, he stayed home with him because it made more sense financially. And if I was so sick I couldn't function he would call in sick and take care of the kids while I layed in bed all day. When fighting postpartum depression, he took the kids and did as much house stuff as he could, no questions asked.

 

When I was pregnant with Ryden, he got up in the middle of the night if Ryden woke up. I think I got up once the entire 9 months because he was sick. And after I had Oaklyn he took a month off of work and did everything, I don't think I stepped into the kitchen for the first 2 weeks.

 

When he gets home from work he takes the kids as long as I need to reset. He still gets up in the middle of the night with Ryden because I get up in the middle of the night with Oaklyn, we each have a designated kid.

 

I go out with my friends, run errands and go to spin class without asking him. Well I ask if it works with the schedule but not if I can go.

 

He also works full time, 45 minutes away from home plus on call weekends half the year. He's still learning on how to take on more of the mental load, I swear that's the hardest part.